Lost In My Thoughts

I can only stare at my screen for a while.....look through the transparent glass window just with a tilt of my neck over my shoulders...through the window i see the untarred dusty road.The weather is windy and dusty with a lot of hustling on the streets.

I say to myself, "...The hustle is so real". Over the last couple of days or weeks i would always get home after 10:00 pm after leaving home at 5:00 am  Isn't that my own hustle too? I come back to watch my screen and i remember i have to post something on my blog at least so you know how my day is going.

Its been a very busy morning, moving up and down. Right now i sit here with some music playing in my ears through my earphone (for once am not listening to country music) and eeerrmm i wish i had the Beats headphones. Music through those are just wow! i borrowed a colleagues and it was mwuach!

Okay so back to what i was saying...where was i? Oh yes!... i remember. You see earlier today i watched a video where Quvenzhane Wallis was interviewed. For those of you who are not familiar with the name, she was the Lead Actress in the movie "Annie".(I can watch that movie over and over again) She actually became the youngest Actress to ever receive  nomination for the Academy awards.

Yeah about her interview in the video, Quvenzhané Wallis said something that got me thinking and i quote: "Be Confident. Dont let anything get your way. And if you go for something and there is something in your way, just go around it and find your way back because trust me, you will get there"

After i heard that from one of the youngest actresses i have known....i just breathed a sigh of relief. I felt she was talking to me.

You know mostly, especially in our society we grow up with very little or no confidence until you grow up and develop yourself with the amount of confidence you probably need. Whenever we set our minds to something and an obstacle gets in our way, we get stuck, confused and begin to loose hope. Actually that makes us human you know? Until we make a decision to strive on to get whatever we set our minds to.

Today, i drew so much inspiration from Annie...i call her "Annie" because trust me i will have to rehearse her name a couple of times before i can get it right. well she said her nickname is Cue...so i can say i drew so much inspiration from Cue. Enthused with so much confidence, has her own style of expressing herself and boi she's intelligent! I ended up tearing up after listening to Tomorrow.(A song originally done by Sia but was featured in Annie)...

Wow it looks like i wasn't lost in my thoughts after all...Really that's how my days has been so far. Am glad i was able to type something after it all.

How about if you shared with me how your day went? :-)

Much Love,

Ese

Better days are ahead

....loyalty fades under pressure and there are very few ones out there willing to fight for you...but they

 are out there. Your past isn't the end of the world, better things are installed. You just have to fight 

for them. Don't give a thrill to people who delight in watching you suffer. Better days are ahead. 

#Nevergiveup #lifepresentsenoughopportunities #Emotionalwriteup

EWE’S WITHOUT THE TONGUE …………..why most ewes born in other regions don’t………………

My name is Lydia Esenam Adzimah. My mother, Patience Adzimah is from Anfoega-Dzana and my Dad, Moses Adzimah is from Wusuta; not very far from Anfoega-Dzana (About 10-15 minutes drive). This makes me 100% ewe (which am very proud of). I have three (3) brothers (those who know me already know). All my brothers (Godwin, Worlanyo and Devine) were born in Anfoega-Dzana. I was the only born in Accra.  My parents made sure to bring us up to be very respectful kids and never forgot virtues. They made sure we always spoke our language because they made us understand that if we didn’t speak it will go a long way to be a disgrace to them and not us. They tell us if elders spoke ewe with us and we weren’t able to answer, it will mean that they (our parents) didn’t teach us. 

They made us understand that there was no where we could learn to speak ewe but home and English and the others could be learnt in school and other places because those were where we interacted a lot with people from other tribes. This was how they managed to help us separate “knowledge” acquired from school, and one acquired from home. I must admit, there were numerous times where I wanted to and even tried to have my own way by speaking English at home and anytime I did, I was answered in ewe. 

Growing up, I have come into contact with people who are either 100% ewes like myself or have got parents who are half ewes. (Thus either the mother or the father) In all cases some can speak the language while others cannot and I ask myself who is to blame. Is it the kids or the parents? Is it that the parents didn’t find it important to speak their own language with their children? Or is it because they failed to eat “akple” and “fetridetsi” well enough? Lol. (My mum’s favorite). 

Most of my friends are ewes either on one side or both sides but sadly, they seem so lost in the ewe language every time they are spoken to. Though I wish they could speak the language at their ages, I always encourage them to make conscious effort to learn since it is never too late. 

Most of my friends (especially the 100% once) have expressed regret and remorse, for their inability to learn the language when they had the chance to. I have always known that kids when growing up are fast learners and I’m sure if they were being spoken to at the early stage of their lives, they would be “expects” by now. It is said that, “a new day brings new opportunity”. So you still can learn now and speak with your kids when they grow. Don’t let your children go through what you are going through now; the regrets of not being able to speak your own mother tongue. 

We have a lot of different people from different tribes living here in Accra, and other capitals around the globe. I am sure they all have behind their minds that someday we all will go back to wherever we might have come from- A place we call “the village”, a place we call “home”.

Some people are even shy to be identified as ewes. They resort to the culture of “brof)lization” of their hometowns and even their names. Seriously, some people sound terrible and horrible trying to do that.   If you don’t know the correct pronunciations, ask and you will be corrected. Some have said to me I speak very good English to be an ewe (I wonder who ever said ewes don’t speak good English). 

Aseye, Selorm, Mawuli, Esenam, Dziedzorm, Worlanyo, etc. Once you hear such names, you know outright from which tribe the individual hails.  This is usually followed by the question; “which part of the Volta region do you come from?” Those as me will proudly answer. But others will shamefully say; I don’t know L (sad). No matter what your response is, the next question will be weather they could speak the language. Regrettably, some will answer “NO” (And you can’t always blame them because it’s not their fault). Others (like me) will say “YES” because we grew up speaking it. I have some friends who are not ewes but I admire their effort in trying to speak or learn the language. They do it with all seriousness.

My parents have been very particular with the ewe language because they always tell us; “Ewe is the root of your identity”. My mum will always encourage her customers and people she came into contact with who can’t speak the language to do so. As much as they (my parents) will encourage us to speak the ewe language they also always made sure we spoke good English.  I must say am thankful to them for this. It has gone a long way to boost my confidence. I read ewe in church as much as I read English almost every other Sunday church service, and people are always proud of me. 

I cannot use myself as the yard stick but I know that each and every one of us who fall short in speaking the language can put the bits and pieces together to help ourselves to correct these wrongs in the next generation. By making the conscious effort with all the seriousness it deserves, I am sure we will NOT repeat the mistakes of our parents who didn’t encourage us or thought us to speak the ewe language.

I love you all

Let’s help one another.

Akpe na mi kataa.

When you miss that FRIEND

2 steps backwards, like a 1000 miles away. My heart feels deceived and my mind can't comprehend. We were like strangers knowing each other in a night.

A night wasn't enough so it took us hours, days, weeks, months and maybe years. I have nothing of you to touch but I feel you in my heart and memories. The inspiration, the motivation, the go-getting spirit, the encouragement you built through me.



Neither a better half nor a lover but a brother and a friend who will always be in my heart and there you will always be. Friends come and go but you have left me a mark; that which will be recognised even when my face is covered in the earth. As the tears fall on this script, I refuse to be torn apart from the hunting of my memories for the love enough to last me a lifetime. We have been through it all; the attention, the attraction, the affection, all these came through your actions.

Don't know what else to say but I know and I believe that meeting you was never a mistake. It was for a reason and that is YOU..............*kisses*

Unconditional Love

One evening after a hard day’s work. I was alone and thinking, I just couldn’t figure out what I was thinking about. That was minutes ago when I had checked on a friend about her sick dad, when I wanted to find out how his condition was. She told me she wasn’t home yet , then I told her to let me know when she gets home. (Indeed she has been one of the friends I met after school tho we were in the same school. I didn’t know her till I completed. I got to know her well and she inspires a lot. I took her like the sis I never had) like I told her, when she got home, she got back to me saying her dad was still same :-( , all I could do was encourage her to keep the faith and that all we can do was to pray, after we discussed his condition. She really thanked me for being there and that I was a good person, that those she considered her best buddies aren’t even bothered. I told her it was the least I could do as a friend and that if she’s happy, I am. And if she is sad, I am. 

That evening minutes later, I had a feeling to check on a friend who I normally won’t check on at the time. I called and asked him the normal “how was your day question” all he said was he was rushing home because his son is sick……I felt sad wishing I could help in any way and I remembered that Our Help Comes From The Lord… suddenly I got moody and started to write this piece.

Don’t help friends looking at what you will get in return. Treat them because you have something to offer. For me I think LOVE is the greatest you can afford. Having a big heart full of love can turn a situation around. I think if I did offer you all the money in the world just for you to be my friend you still will not appreciate it. 

If I did offer you a car, it probably won’t be what you wished for. If I did get you a house, it just might not be the kind of house you always dreamt to live in. And you ask yourself what is in mind of an individual?.  If I gave you LOVE, unconditional love, you will really appreciate it with every breath you take. Love that I show through my thoughts, my kind words, my actions, my phone calls, my text messages, my silly comments, my appreciative gestures, a cheerful look, a warm smile, love that can indeed last you a lifetime. 

 True love comes from the heart, It comes from within. That which is ready to give, even if it the smallest you have, one that is ready to receive any criticisms, one that is accommodative, one that gives you all the attention you need………those kind of hearts are hard to find you have to open your “third eye”. I know someone will tell me that “I do so much to make other people happy, why do I always get the short end of the stick…..?”

Don’t stop doing good. I have learned that one can always pray for someone when you don’t have the strength to help someone in some other way, but remember God doesn’t give us everything we ask for; He has his reasons. Learn to encourage people in all they do, DON’T be envious of their success. Sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand. I have always believed that a lot of the trouble in the world would disappear if we were talking to each other instead of about each other.

Continue loving friends for whom they are not what they have. Try it, and you will never regret helping someone…………………………

CHEERS TO LIFE.

FRIENDSHIP APPRECIATION

How often do we appreciate our friends? Some of us take some of our friends for granted, especially those who love and care about us the most. We don’t need the whole world and its contents to make friends know that we care; It is the little things that we do. Actions they say speaks louder than words. However, I taught of sharing this piece with all my wonderful friends.



One day, I’ll leave the world and never come back, you will cry when you see my number, you will miss me when you sit alone, you will not be able to hear my laugh and voice again……not even my smiles.

There would be no more me to irritate you, tease you, make you laugh and say ‘’sorry stupid’’. Tears might flow out of your eyes but I will be gone, long and forever so enjoy my silly stupid company as much as you can, before I close my eyes forever!!!

Let us all learn to appreciate people around us because until we do, they will never know how we feel about them.



To my wonderful friends. I love you and always will ………xoxoxoxoxox